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Thursday, October 21, 2004

Thursday is culture shock day in my life. Itís near the end of a long week, not my worst work day but as close to a second Monday as I care to come. The only reason Friday isnít worse is that itís Friday. I mean, come on. Friday.

On most Thursdays I have dinner with Tammy and David and their boys. I go from my quiet country retreat where I hardly see or talk to anyone to the controlled chaos of a house with three children, the oldest of whom is five. Can you imagine what this is like for me? I love it, but I sometimes find myself a little dizzy from all the energy and activity.

And sometimes the ďcontrolledĒ chaos doesnít seem all that controlled. To me. Obviously Tammy and David know what theyíre doing, and they have a handle on what each child needs and how to provide it. A stranger looking in might not see it that way, but as someone who loves all five of them, I know what to look for. Itís great, and I enjoy my time there. It can get loud, though, and sometimes I get a little lost.

I canít imagine my life without this opportunity to be a part of theirs. I even try to help out a little, although my skills arenít exactly in tune with what they need. But I can listen to D.J.ís endless stories, and I can pay attention to each new thought that Dakota chooses to share, and I can hold Aiden and walk him around until he starts demanding that an actual parent take notice of him.

What more could a single guy ask for? Plus, I can do all that for a few hours and then go home to the peace and quiet. Sometimes I wish I could share that chance with Tammy and David, but that just isnít the way the world works. I canít say enough about how much I admire the way they give those boys what they need, at no small cost to their own serenity and (to some degree) sanity.

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And frankly, even with all the chaos, itís a break for me. I get out of the house and I get to be with people who matter to me. It helps me a lot at the end of a long week, and especially on a day like today when the phone would not stop ringing and everyone on the other end of the line wanted something from me that I didnít have the time or energy (or interest) to give them. As Iíve said before, family is my lifeline.

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Two of the best baseball towns in the country will be represented in this yearís World Series, and it should be wild in both Boston and St. Louis over the next week or so. The Cardinals earned the right to play the Red Sox tonight with a classy 5-2 win over the Astros. They played the game the way I like to see it played, doing everything well — pitching, defense, timely hitting, power hitting, and a manager making the right moves at the right time. Iíd love to see the Series go seven games, just to give the great fans in those two towns a few extra thrills before the long winter break sets in.

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"Oh sure, I'd like to see the Marlins topple the mighty Yankees, but it's not as if I've lived and died with the Florida team since April the way— well, the way nobody has, since they barely had a following until their late-season run at the playoffs."

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